for love or friendship?

julie asked me a question which is an old time debate about love and friendship. "how can one ever continue being friends with somebody, when everytime you look at that person all you can think of is how much you want to be more than friends?"

i told her, "mahirap maging friends lang kung di na platonic ung relationship... it's either maging lovers na sila or the other person needs to ignore his/her feelings lalo na kung 1 way lang".

If you'll be honest with yourself and tell your friend that what you feel towards him/her is more than friends, you'll either be lovers OR risk your friendship.

BEING LOVERS, this will be a perfect fairytale story. friends and lovers. friendship is a good foundation of a relationship. considering that the feeling is mutual, this the best gift you can asked for but if not, He/she will ignore you or worst, this might be the end of your friendship. But atleast you we're honest enough to tell your true feelings. the coward's way is to simply ignore the feeling. why risk a good friendship. if you're the cautious type, you'll definitely choose the last one.

Personally, if this ever happens to me, i think i'll be cautious enough to evaluate my feelings first. it could just be a simple crush that would eventually disappear. i'll simply weight the pro's and con's if ever i decide to tell my friend that i'm in love with him. if i think i'm madly inlove (eyes rolling) then i'll tell him and risk our friendship. i'm not a great actress so i doubt if i'll be able to hide my feelings well. if the feeling is mutual then that would be great. but if not, i'll just end our friendship so i can heal my heart (naks!!! hehehe) and move on. i don't think we can still be friends knowing that the one of us is inlove with the other.

If we continue to be friends, i might fall deeper and end up hurting deeper. i might desperately wait for him to fall for me and end up being a fool. it's hard to wait and only to find out in the end that i'm waiting for nothing.

and besides, i value my pride so much that i don't think i'll let my friend (out of pity)pretend that nothing changed....maybe we can be friends again ONCE the feeling is GONE, and i was able to move on.


*sigh* ANG DRAMA ng buhay

crimson room

i'll just let u guys know that i was able to escape the crimson room and I am officially part of the escapers list...hehehe...

i spent the whole day with gio and theny. we enrolled for the japanese class every sunday. we're so excited about it so we bought our new notebook and pen. time flies so fast when you are having fun. today's topic is all about relationship and unrequited love..... serious topic huh!!!! i'll just create a new entry for my insights about that. i can't think, i'm so sleepy. i just went home past 10 pm.

IQ Test

nothing fancy, just taking a test -- IQ test-- just to check if i still have one and if it's still working... got the test from tickles site and papa bear's blog site... check out my result

The Super IQ Test
How Smart Are You Really?

mau, your Super IQ score is 106

Your overall intelligence quotient is the result of a scientifically-tested formula based on how many questions you answered correctly. But it's only part of what we learned about you from your answers on the test. We also determined the way you process information.

The way you think about things makes you an Original Thinker. This means you're a naturally abstract thinker. You pick up visual detail that others routinely miss. You're also very good at making connections that don't already exist, and you have your own ideas of how the world works. While your talents matter greatly in real life, they are sometimes overlooked in less thorough intelligence tests.

How did we determine that your thinking style is that of an Original Thinker? When we examined your test results further, we analyzed how you scored on 8 dimensions of intelligence: spatial, organizational, abstract reasoning, logical, mechanical, verbal, visual and numerical. The 3 dimensions you scored highest on combine to make you an Original Thinker. Only 6 out of 1,000 people have this rare combination of abilities.

looks like we have the same level of IQ papa bear, hahaha!

and also
What Breed of Dog Are You?
mau, you're a Collie!

honestly, i don't know what a collie looks like and what's with collie dog. so out of boredom (AGAIN!!) i did some reasearch...

Border Collies - Dogs - Overview

Border Collies are known as perfect working dogs. This breed has a boundless energy source and tends to devote itself to work. Strive for work and outstanding temperament make the Border Collie a wonderful breed for those who value affectionate pets and hard-working dogs. Border Collies are used for herding. They are famous for their habit to eye sheep and keep them in control absolutely. A working Border Collie will always notice everything that is going on at the moment near the herd. If the herd is moving in a wrong direction, a Border Collie will take care of everything. It will react immediately and do its best to manage sheep. Border Collies are considered one of the best herding breeds. They are also valued for their intelligence and physical attributes.
(http://www.border-collie-dogs.com/, aug 12, 2005, 9:47 pm manila time)

JLO???!!!

out of boredom, while im chatting with some of my friends, papa bear gave me this website -- http://web.tickle.com/tests/stardouble/ -- and here's my result.....


mau, your movie star double is Jennifer Lopez

A magnetic maven like you needs to be played by someone who knows how to get an audience's attention — and keep it. That's why Jennifer Lopez would be a great leading lady in the movie of your life. You've got a certain star quality that makes people applaud whatever you decide to put your energy into. Regardless of whether you match J Lo's glamorous look, her mega-diva glow will help translate your stunning charisma to the silver screen.

Back in high school, were you the one in the spotlight — star of the school play, student council president, and popular girl around town? Well, with your charms, you should have been. There's just something about you that has people screaming for more. But that's a good thing since you probably thrive when you're being social, surrounded by people, or getting out and about.

If some people perceive you as high maintenance, you can just tell them that you have high expectations. If you're willing to work so hard on yourself, why can't other people do the same? So get ready for the new cast in the movie of your life headed by none other than J Lo herself.


---- honestly, i dont think this suits me. maybe i'll just take the test again...