for love or friendship?

julie asked me a question which is an old time debate about love and friendship. "how can one ever continue being friends with somebody, when everytime you look at that person all you can think of is how much you want to be more than friends?"

i told her, "mahirap maging friends lang kung di na platonic ung relationship... it's either maging lovers na sila or the other person needs to ignore his/her feelings lalo na kung 1 way lang".

If you'll be honest with yourself and tell your friend that what you feel towards him/her is more than friends, you'll either be lovers OR risk your friendship.

BEING LOVERS, this will be a perfect fairytale story. friends and lovers. friendship is a good foundation of a relationship. considering that the feeling is mutual, this the best gift you can asked for but if not, He/she will ignore you or worst, this might be the end of your friendship. But atleast you we're honest enough to tell your true feelings. the coward's way is to simply ignore the feeling. why risk a good friendship. if you're the cautious type, you'll definitely choose the last one.

Personally, if this ever happens to me, i think i'll be cautious enough to evaluate my feelings first. it could just be a simple crush that would eventually disappear. i'll simply weight the pro's and con's if ever i decide to tell my friend that i'm in love with him. if i think i'm madly inlove (eyes rolling) then i'll tell him and risk our friendship. i'm not a great actress so i doubt if i'll be able to hide my feelings well. if the feeling is mutual then that would be great. but if not, i'll just end our friendship so i can heal my heart (naks!!! hehehe) and move on. i don't think we can still be friends knowing that the one of us is inlove with the other.

If we continue to be friends, i might fall deeper and end up hurting deeper. i might desperately wait for him to fall for me and end up being a fool. it's hard to wait and only to find out in the end that i'm waiting for nothing.

and besides, i value my pride so much that i don't think i'll let my friend (out of pity)pretend that nothing changed....maybe we can be friends again ONCE the feeling is GONE, and i was able to move on.


*sigh* ANG DRAMA ng buhay